I'll tell you what, you need to make it clear that your the man of the house and your rules need be followed. Dont be a controlling Ahole but that's the truth. People need to understand that there will be consiquenses to breaking the rules. The only way they'll learn is if they relate pain to disobeying you. Be nice and lay down the rules, but when you enforce em people are gonna go runnin. To be honest with you it sounds like your being submissive to the lazyness your family is infected with. STEP UP! Lay down the law and light a fire under their ass's to pick up their weight. and another thing.........YOU DA MAN!!